“At any moment we can turn the page on our past and begin again. We can make a fresh start. We can move forward as if nothing happened.” Michael Neill
All my recent posts have been following the journey through The Space Within and this week it’s chapter 6 — A Fresh Start.
Through this chapter, one thing kept standing out for me — the idea of having agency in changing our thoughts about life. Like the quote above, ‘we’ can turn the page, ‘we’ can make a fresh start, ‘we’ can move forward as if nothing happened.
“Copying the behaviour spontaneously produced by people who transform their lives will rarely transform yours” Michael Neill
I often used to write about the ‘cookie-cutter mind’. The aspect of the intellect or conceptual mind that sees something thinks it looks like a great idea and then proceeds to go into mass production — repeating the behaviour, activity, or words that it thinks contained the magic, in order to try and secure a reliable outcome.
Reliable, repetitive outcomes are great when there’s actual manufacturing involved; with machines that (as far as we know) aren’t capable of creativity or spontaneity, and with…
“Quite simply, the peace of Mind is your true nature. You can never lose it, because it’s the very core of your being” Michael Neill
On a course with Clare Dimon last year, that photo of the two women fighting in the supermarket aisles over toilet roll caused much confusion when Clare stated — ‘also peace.’
“Whaaaaattt!’ says the mind. She must be crazy!
But this is what Michael is also pointing to in Chapter 4 of his book The Space Within. Peace is not something that comes and goes. It’s not something that is here when we feel calm…
“Think of ‘quiet’ not as an absence of thought but as the space inside which the noise of your thinking arises” Michael Neill
“Purity of Self” were the words one of the current Transformation Space group members shared. “A pure, sparkly, unperturbed river” a client has said. Peace. Contentment. OK-ness. Calm.
That’s what you’re looking for.
With everything you ‘do’ in life, you’re actually looking for the feeling of this space within. Once you rediscover where it actually comes from (rather than believing people and things ‘give’ it to you) you don’t stop doing (we seem designed to…
“When you acknowledge everything you love,
you begin to love everything you acknowledge”
About 6 years ago I came across the practice of #3goodthings — every day writing in a notebook, or tweeting, 3 good things that had happened that day. Sometimes it was seemingly small things, like how nice my sandwich was at lunch, things I’d normally brush over, and it had the effect of me realising that while the mind could say ‘today’s been pretty average’ or even ‘terrible!’ it started to bring chinks of lovely light into that narrative. …
“When we’re not caught up in thought we settle down and come to our senses with presence and clarity.” Ken Manning
Sometimes when we think ‘transformative’ we think jazz hands, dramatic, huge insights. And that’s totally available. But sometimes it’s the opposite.
Sometimes it’s the little things that make the big difference. Sometimes it’s the seemingly inconsequential that create the biggest shifts, because the deeper we’re looking into how we work, the bigger the difference that’s experienced on the surface. A small nudge creates a big ripple.
In the conversation we have here we’re always looking to the principles of…
“I came to see the world is always as it should be, whether I oppose it or not” Byron Katie
Life is unpredictable — how does that feel? Is there a slight ‘eek’ or contraction? A little bit of white-knuckle feeling? A slight clench in your stomach?
If I say — can you predict what will happen tomorrow? — you probably, quite calmly and rationally, say no.
If I say — Un. Pre. Dictable! — does it bring to mind Vector from Despicable Me?!! OK, I’m kind of kidding with this one, but it does make me laugh!
“Life is an endless manifestation of possibilities. When it is realised that limitation is a product of the imagination, and not a fixed reality, anything becomes possible.” — Lisa Cairns
The one used in growth-mindset training about the fleas that were in a container with a lid on, which meant they could only jump to the height of the lid. When the lid was removed, they continued jumping to that height — conditioned to that as the ‘safe’ height to jump.
Piers introduced me to this idea in the context of invisible lids of thought which limit what we believe…
“No solid, unchanging ‘good’ or ‘bad’ can be established.
Good and bad aren’t absolutes.
They are beliefs, judgements, ideas
based on limited knowledge and the inclinations of our minds” — Steve Hagen
What if behaviour is never wrong, we just don’t get to see how it’s right?
A client was telling me last week about someone who failed to show up to a meeting they’d seemed so keen to have, and then came late to the rescheduled one which they set up for just a day later. Judgements ran about this person’s inability to manage their life and their diary…
“In confusion, feelings are caused by the outside world and our thoughts about that are justified.
In clarity, feelings come and go in relationship with the thinking that’s appearing.
In truth, thoughts and feelings come and go, entirely impersonally”
There seems to have been a lot of ebbing happening the last few weeks; for me, for clients, for friends. A lot of turbulence and contraction. Showing up on the surface in different ways…
Mine has been the feeling of too much to do and not enough time to do it all. Oh, and it has to be done well!